There are two kinds of Chiropractors.
There are the traditional ones -as I call them, the “snap, crackle, and pop” kind - that just snap bones back into place. Even as a kid I’ve always had headaches and migraines, and would occasionally visit a chiropractor. This was the kind of chiropractor I went to when I was pregnant 18 years ago. I thought that snap crackle pop, was the only kind there was.
But now I go to a chiropractor who focuses on working on the muscles, and he never forces an adjustment. Apparently I am a challenge in that area, because I am just “too flexible” and he can’t get the vertebrate to slide back into place so easily. The electric stimulus was weird at first, but I usually fall asleep while the machine does its work after an adjustment. And my neck, I can freely move and turn my head without stiffness or pain!
I love Dr Eddy. I’ve been one of his patients for years. He is a good chiropractor and a great person. He’s always been interested in what was going on in my life – and even remembers it if I don’t see him for months! One of the biggest benefits I’ve had as his patient was finally discovering a major trigger for the migraines. At the suggestion of a nut allergy (food kind, not the co-worker kind) I discovered I indeed am allergic to peanuts. Wow! The migraine attacks have decreased greatly since I’ve cut out peanuts and all peanut products.
But this post is not about peanuts, or methods of chiropractic care. It is about a prevalent stereotype.
You see, back in 1994 when I was pregnant I think the chiropractor helped. I think all the stretches he suggested also helped. It was eighteen years ago, but I still remember in the ‘birthing’ classes that they talked about false labor, and said we’d know it was real labor when it included incredible back pain.
I never had back pain, none. I was ten days over my due date, and when labor pains started, I dismissed it because there was no back pain. It really freaked my Mom out when I finally woke her up and told her that I had been timing the pain for over an hour and I seemed to be having contractions about 5 minutes apart. Not a stitch of back pain through the whole ordeal.
So, when I found out in 2009 that I was pregnant again, I figured I’d make regular chiropractor visits, because the back pain – just doesn’t sound like a whole lot of fun, especially if it can be avoided. I visited Dr Eddy, and when it came time for the electric stimulus, I declined. I just didn’t feel comfortable with an electric current and any risk to the baby.
Being pregnant brought up a subject with him that we had not discussed before. It was 2009, and I was just beginning to come out of the closet about having given up a baby for adoption. In fact this discussion with Dr Eddy was less than two months after my first ever Adoptee Rights Demonstration, which truly was like being catapulted out of the closet of hiding and secrecy. I told Dr Eddy about my son, about the pain of living without him, about all the years of shame, about the unethical tactics of coercion used by the adoption professionals.
I just wasn’t prepared for his response as he calmly said, “Well, you are a different person now than you were then.”
Seriously? ! ? !
Dr Eddy, what about me has changed? Sure, I am not as impatient as I was in 1994, but that comes with maturity – which happens to most people. I’ve never slept around. I’ve never touched drugs. I’ve occasionally gotten tipsy but don’t drink a lot or often. I’ve never smoked (or chewed). I’ve been working since I was a teenager and am a good reliable employee. I am a law abiding and productive citizen (with a slightly lead foot).
Other than maturity, please describe what about me has changed? At the core, I am the exact same person I was in 1994.
And now that you’ve known me, Dr Eddy, for over 10 years – What about me is so -Awful Wrong that my son should have be severed from his family and sold off to strangers?
Nothing, Dr Eddy, nothing at all is wrong with me – not with who I am now, nor was there anything defective with me then either.
The problem, my friend, was not with me. The problem was and is with adoption and myriad of people in society, just like you who believe the lies and have the attitude that pregnant women should not care for their own babies. Making women feel like they are defective so their babies can be sold for a profit. That, Dr Eddy, is the problem.
No, I am not really a different person. I was mutilated for no good reason, unless, of course, greed is a “good reason” in your opinion.
NOT
A
Different
Person
Today I saw a bald eagle. My husband has seen one twice since we've moved to our 'new' home. Today as I was driving along the river, I was getting ready to get on the interstate when I saw it.
It was probably the same reaciton as people who just saw a celebrity. My jaw dropped open as I'm trying to focus on driving...I'm just in awe... stupified and frozen. If I had not had that celebrety shock hit me, I might have gotten a shot of it w/ the camera on my cell phone.
It was not very big, so it must've been a young bird.
I was so excited about it, I got on-line to write about it ... and then I found this blog.
The irony, I was so pumped about seeing the Bald Eagle. The national bird, symbol of freedom! strength! dignity! and honor!
But after reading this, my visual was instead of a young eagle with it's wings bound and lyaing helplessly on the table. A table in an auction house. The onlookers eyes were filled with greed. I sense the fear in the once - majestic bird. It has been reduced to becoming someone's prize - at the right price...
Here is the link for you to read. http://apathoftheheart.blogspot.com/2009/01/january-23-2009-adoption-situations.html
Or you can scroll down to read it as I read it today ...
I've pasted it below for your convenience... >I've interjected my comments are in gray<
"Friday, January 23, 2009
January 23, 2009 Adoption Situations
I hope this post finds everyone doing well! Thank you for all the comments and suggestions of more adoption books. We're headed to Borders this weekend to expand our library:)
The following are our most current situations available to our clients:
1.) *NEW* Caucasian/African-American Boy, 2/10/09, UT, $23K + potential medical expenses, *BM used marijuana during pregnancy and wants open adoption with poss visits
2.) *NEW* African-America/Hispanic Girl, 2/28/09, Maryland, $20K, Alcohol exp during pregnancy
3.) *NEW* Caucasian/Hispanic Unk Gender, $35K, May
4.) Caucasian Unk Gender, $37K, June
5.) Caucasian/African-American Boy, $30-35K, Apr
6.) Caucasian/African-American Boy, $30-35K, June
7.) African-American Boy, 2/23/09, $20K, GA
8.) African-American Girl, 3/10/09, $20K, AL
9.) African-American Boy, 3/13/09, $20K, GA
10.) African-American Boy, 3/25/09, $24, UT
11.) African-American Girl, 4/11/09, $24K, UT
Contact me at karalee@christianadoptionconsultants.com if you're interested or to find out more about CAC. Have a great weekend, everyone! :) "
**second blog post**
"Tuesday, January 6, 2009
Updated Situation List
Things sure are moving quickly! :)
Here is a list of our updated situations:
1.) *NEW* Caucasian Girl, 1/23/09, BM on methadone
2.) *NEW* African-American/Hispanic Girl, 2/28/09, Maryland, $20K (Alcohol Exp)
3.) *NEW* African-American Boy, 2/6/09, GA, $20K
4.) *NEW* African-American Boy, 2/17/09,SC, $21K
5.) *NEW* African-American Boy, 2/17/09, UT, agency fee $16K
6.) *NEW* African-American Girl, 3/1/09, TX, $20K
7.) *NEW* African-American Boy, 3/6/09, LA, $20K
8.) *NEW* African-American Girl, 3/1/09, AL, $20K
9.) African-American/Caucasian Boy, Due March
10.) African-American/Caucasian Unk Gender, Due April
11.) African-American Boy, Due Feb
12.) African-American Boy, Due Feb
13.) Caucasian Boy, Due Feb
14.) Caucasian/Hispanic Unk Gender, Due Feb
15.) Caucasian Unk Gender, Due May
16.) 3/4 Hispanic 1/4 Caucasian Girl, Due Feb17.) African-American Boy, $16K, 2/22/09Contact me at karalee@christianadoptionconsultants.com with any questions or if you're interested!
Posted by Karalee at 5:15 PM
**end of blog post**
>about this second post, wow she literally says "things are moving fast". What things? Babies?<
>Below I'm pasting comments to her 1/23/09 post, which were there when I read it today, because I imagine the author of this blog will delete them when she reads them. Whereas instead she should be falling on her knees repenting...
karalee, do God a favor and stop using His name to justify the greed and marketing for such a repulsive industry, ok?<
jctippinward said...
First let me start off with saying this one of the most disgusting things I have ever laid my eye upon, and Ive seen a lot in my 21 years of living, but this putting a price on a child and listing him/her on a blog as if you were selling a car is just wrong. A white Caucasian male will run you about 35k wile an African-American male child will run you about 23k. What is this, Cars made by a certain company therefore will be better? Are you serious?
These a children people, the most innocent thing in the world has now become a Market for investments and profit.
Look at the way you list him here as if they were a product, like they came out of a plastic box. Do you not have children of your own? Let me ask you this would put a price tag on them and sell em on the open market? No? Then why do you find it to be right to sell another person(s) child over blogspot?
As im sure by now some have you have stopped reading and wrote me off as an educated buffoon who has no idea what im talking about and to those you closed minded ignorant pricks all I can say to you is piss off. I am a product of the hole open adoption craze. It was like a new fashion craze amongst you everyone is doing it so it must be right. Well its not right and I will tell you why.
When my Amom stopped sending my Mother(Casi) news and pictures on how I was doing, my Mother went to the adoption agency and complained. They told her there is nothing she can do about it, that I was now under the control of my Amom(Terri). My adoption was an open one and just like that it became close. I will only say this the amount of pain that caused my mother still ripples threw time today. What it did to me has changed who I am forever.
I spent most of youth jumping around from step dad to step dad watching the first one physically and mentally abuse Terri and I. The second one never loved me he told me that himself. There was no father figure besides Terri's Father. He passed away when I was 15 the only sort of guidance for me had no passed on to a better place, I was lost. I didn't know who I was I new that I wasn't blood with the people I lived with and deep down inside I knew I didn't belong where I was.
As a teen I was far from an angel I did a lot of things I look back onto now and hold in deep regret of my actions. When I was 16 Terri left me with her Mother who at the time was unable to walk. I had complete freedom and I took full advantage of it. I found my self stealing her car, credit cards, an cash and partying every night. By the time I was 17 I was kicked out of Terri's mother's house and left to move back in with Terri.
This was the hardest time of my life.Terri was a drunk and a mean one at that. It caused many fights and many problems for us. I dont want to cover much on this time. I was doing nothing but living to die.
I knew deep down I hated everything and everyone and the only thing that made that go away was a abusive drug habit that still scars my heart today. Both of my shoulders are destroyed from self inflected wounds they will never look the same. These are the things that haunt me.
Now I tell you that story to tell you this one.
The adoption agency told my mom she would not be able to be a good mother for me. Those lieing bastards. I have 2 little brother and one little sister. Both of my Parents are still together and married doing what they can to make sure we there children have everything we need to succeed in life. They told her this would not happen.
Now ive read all over books about feeling angry towards (and I hate using this term) the Natural parents and if your one of those right now reading this I want to say this from me to you. Forgive and open your heart, remember when your young and scared about the world?
Well they were two and they where tricked by a money thirsty industry. If they would have known the true cost it would never have happened and it would have been done there. So again forgive your heart will feel better as will theres.
So don't sit there and tell me someone cant raise a child because they've smoked a little pot. Or because they are young and still young adults themselves. 99% of parents out there love their children with all the heart to an extent that words not describe. I say 99% because there is that 1% who kills their children because they are legitimately insain and God told em to do it.
Love is a powerful thing and it will make you do crazy things, such as forget your old life style and began raising a child.
And so now here you sit reading over adds on the Internet for children. All of them have different packages and millage on them and you feel good about your self? It should not matter the race or gender of age of the child why? Because they are Children all the same innocence wrapped up in a bundle of joy.
So I hope this made some of you think a little bit about the truth behind this industry, its not always everything they tell you it will be.
January 23, 2009 3:49 PM
>Thank you jctippinward for sharing of yourself, your soul, for helping others see without the tainted rosecolored glasses<
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worried said...
How do you sleep at night knowing that you sell human flesh in the name of Christianity? You are not a Christian. You are being used by the devil to do evil work.
January 24, 2009 9:27 AM"
>You hit the 'nail' on the head, Worried! Selling babies one of the most UNChristian things around...even if 'everyone's doing it!'<
>Ok, Ok. I TRIED to not comment, but since it would probably be deleted, here's what I said ...<
Cheerio! said...
"Thank you karalee -
thank you for removing the fog for people to clearly see how even so-called "christian" ((NOT!!)) agencies sell babies.
Price Tags visible to all.
I hope that for the sake of the child you adopted already, you would seek out books like Primal Wound by Nancy Vierrier to see inside an adoptee's heart.
Adoption affects children.
A child being separated from their Natural Parent is a great loss and wound to them.
It is a well hidden fact & people don't who are not adopted do NOT want to hear it.
Why wound these children in the name of God? why not instead stand beside the expectant woman and TEACH and SUPPORT her to be the Mother God desires her to be?
January 24, 2009 10:01 AM"
