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In general I am a cheery and energetic person. But I am enshrouded in a cloak of iron. That cloak is the weight of greiving my son, whom I've lost to adoption.

Friday, January 9, 2015

Cheerio's Reading Rack

Books and other publications (pamphlets, articles, and studies)

Going back to school has zapped ALL my spare time.  I rarely have time to even garden let alone blog.  I often think about writing new posts, but the ideas mostly stay in my head.  This year I my aim to posts more regularly and post about books or articles I’ve read.

This post is just a list of books I’ve read recently (as in the past few years) plus the stack of books I have on my filing cabinet waiting to be read (or finish ones in progress).  Throughout the year I’ll post threads with my comments about an item from my ever growing reading rack.

About the Adoption Experience

Silent Grief: Miscarriage – Child Loss Finding Your Way through the Darkness by Clara Hinton 
Adoption and Loss: The Hidden Grief by Evelyn B Robinson 
Adoption and Identity: Influence on Emerging Adults’ Occupational and Parental Goals (2011)[article] by April Moyer and Linda Juant – Adoption Quarterly 
Birth Records of Illegitimates and of Adopted Children (1930) [article] by Sheldoh Howard and Henry Hemenway - American Journal of Public Health 
The Girls Who Went Away: The Hidden History of Women Who Surrendered Children for Adoption in the Decades before Roe v. Wade by Ann Fessler 
Journey of the Adopted Self: A Quest for wholeness by Betty Jean Lifton 
The Other Mother by Carol Schaefer 
The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child by Nancy Verrier 
The Princess Has To Die: Representing rupture and grief in the narrative of adoption (2009) [article] by Josephine Wright – The Psychoanalytic Study of the Child 
The Same Smile: The Triumph of a Mother's Love after Losing Two Daughters by Susan Mello Souza and Joanne Medeiros Harrington 
Sixteen and Pregnant: Minors’ Consent in Abortion and Adoption (2013) [pamphlet] by Malinda Syemore - Yale Journal of Law and Feminism 
Strengthening Adoption Practice, Listening to Adoptive Families (2007) [article] by Anne Atkinson and Patricia Gonet 
Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish their Adoptive Parents Knew by Sherrie Eldridge 
Twice Born: Memoirs of an Adopted Daughter by Betty Jean Lifton 

Adoption Healing: A Path to Recovery (for adoptees) by Joe Soll (I have heard conflicting reports on this author, so it is at the bottom of the stack.  I will likely read it someday.) 
Adoption Wisdom: A Guide to the issues and feelings of adoption by Marlou Russel Ph. D (I started this book but it fell to bottom of stack because of what I felt was repeated subtle negative representation of original mothers.  After 5 chapters, I don’t know if I will ever finish this one.)
Pro-Adoption Marketing Propaganda 
Birthmother Good Mother: Her Story of Heroic Redemption (2007) by Charles Kennedy and National Council for Adoption 
The Missing Piece: Adoption Counseling in Pregnancy Resource Centers (2000) [pamphlet]  Curtis J Young

Adoption and Recovery: Solving the Mystery of Reunion by Evelyn B Robinson 
Adoption Forum: Intimate discussions to unite the triad in healing by Kasey Hamner 
The Adoption Reunion Survival Guide: Preparing yourself for the search, reunion, and beyond by Julie Bailey and Lynn Giddens 
Birth Bond: Reunions between birthparents and adoptees – what happens after by Judith Gediman and Linda Brown 
Birthright: The Guide to Search and Reunion for Adoptees, Birthparents, and Adoptive Parents by Betty Jean Lifton 
Boundaries: When to say Yes, When to say No to Take Control of Your Life by Dr Henry Cloud and Dr Jon Townsend 
Lost & Found: The adoption experience by Betty Jean Lifton 
One Perfect Day: A Mother and Son’s Story of Adoption and Reunion by Diane Burke and Steve Orlandi 
Reunions between Adoptees and Birth Parents: The Adoptive Parent’s View (1994) [article] by Silverman, Campbell, Patti – Social Work 
Why Reunions Go Wrong: What Memoirs of Adopted Daughters Tell Birthmothers (article) by Jane Edwards – Origins USA

Transracial and International Adoption

Black Kids in White Houses: On Race, Silence, and the Changing American Family () [article] by Jen Graves 
The Lie We Love (2008) [article] by E. J. Graff 
Child Laundering and the Hague Convention on Intercountry Adoption: The Future and Past of Intercountry Adoption (2010) [article] by David M Smolin – University of Louisville Law Review 
The Missing Girls of China: Population, Policy, Culture, Gender, Abortion, Abandonment, and Adoption in East-Asian Perspective (20100 [article] by David M Smolin – Cumberland Law Review

Contains Adoption Threads 

Finding Fish: A Memoir by Antwone Quenton Fisher 
Rosa Lee: A mother and her family in Urban America 
Shut up and Say Something: Business Communication Strategies to Overcome Challenges and Influence Listeners by Karen Friedman (adoption reform or fighting for legislative change for equal access to OBC )

Non-adoption reading

WWII -- Unbroken by Laura Hillenbrand 
WWII -- Night by Elie Wiesel 
WWII -- From Zolkiewka to Israel by Haim Zilberkland
Fat Shame: Stigma and the Fat Body in American Culture by Amy Erdman Farrell 
Killer Angels by Michael Shaara 
Nickel and Dimed: on (not) Getting by in America by Barbara Ehrenreich 
Now, Discover Your Strengths by Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton 
The Blue Orchard by Jackson Taylor 
The Healing of America: a Global Quest for Better, Cheaper, and Fairer Health Care by T. R. Reid



  1. I'm looking to you to tell me which is good. Love to hear your perspectives!

  2. ok, I'll give you a teaser - you can't possibly go wrong with the first three books on the list.