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In general I am a cheery and energetic person. But I am enshrouded in a cloak of iron. That cloak is the weight of greiving my son, whom I've lost to adoption.

Tuesday, October 30, 2012

what does it feel like being a birthmother

What does it feel like to be a birthmother?

It feels like being the goat in this video




  1. That's definitely an intense way of looking at it from Birthmom's view. It does feel like we're falling constantly off a cliff when we face the challenges of adoption or even reunion.

  2. Yes, I can relate to feeling helpless like falling off a cliff. Whether it's facing challenges with adoption or even in reunion. When you hit a deadend you've feel so helpless and sad.

  3. thank you anon for your comments...
    when I posted this I didn't really think about it being a recurring event, but you are soo right! Losing our child was not a once and done event ... coping with it happens over and over and over again our entire life!

    Yes, I agree with the helplessness too.

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    1. thank you for commenting, Carlynne...
      sums it up...
      never would have thought it was possible to sum it up, especially not in 23 seconds...but it did.

  5. That's it! But I don't see a goat falling off a cliff; I see a goat getting caught by an eagle and dragged off the cliff to it's death.

    1. Exactly, Maru67 ... it wasn't carelessness that lead to the goat's tragic end. It was very intentional act on the eagle's part