tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post6180888709558625645..comments2023-06-14T11:09:46.819-04:00Comments on Surviving Adoption Loss: Are you gonna celebrate?Cheerio!http://www.blogger.com/profile/00709663898726245342noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-69325807366188252862010-04-18T11:08:29.749-04:002010-04-18T11:08:29.749-04:00Thank you for your encouragement, hatherrainbow .....Thank you for your encouragement, hatherrainbow ... wow, 10 yrs apart. Mine were 15 years apart. yet, there is no such distance in our hearts.<br />I am sorry you too know both of these losses, and how losing a child to adoption makes losing a wee unborn one so much harder.<br /><br />I did wander over to your blog. I'll try to visit it again. The layout is great! Thank you for stopping by and leaving a note.<br /><br />((hugs)) bacck to you!!!Cheerio!https://www.blogger.com/profile/00709663898726245342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-73321027090583113712010-04-15T09:51:05.656-04:002010-04-15T09:51:05.656-04:00hugs ((Cheerio))
I lost my daughter to adoption ...hugs ((Cheerio)) <br /><br />I lost my daughter to adoption in April 1998. I lost my son to miscarriage March 20th, 2008. I understand your losses, and send you some hugs. Cry as much as you need to for as long. I remember when I lost my son, it was so heavy on my heart. Not only did I lose my son, but the adoption loss was also magnified for me when I miscarried. <br /><br />Cry. Do good things for yourself. Take breaks from these "celebrations" for now if you need to. Give yourself space for as long as you need. Eat ice cream, and sit in your pj's and watch movies all day long if you want. Just take the time for yourself, and treat yourself well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-65524377749642347052010-04-05T20:32:05.845-04:002010-04-05T20:32:05.845-04:00awwww, IA - tx for the hugs, yes i'll accept t...awwww, IA - tx for the hugs, yes i'll accept them from you!<br />yes, I am trying to weed out the friends - or the 'so i thought you were a friend' people. it's ironic how many people will defend the actions/inaction of these weed friends. But that doesn't change how i feel about it.Cheerio!https://www.blogger.com/profile/00709663898726245342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-42467022122712000732010-04-05T18:56:27.267-04:002010-04-05T18:56:27.267-04:00Your miscarriage is still pretty raw Cheerio-this ...Your miscarriage is still pretty raw Cheerio-this is the first birthday you've had since you lost her-don't get down on yourself or question how to deal will it, that is just extra stress you don't need. You feel how you feel. In time the pain with lessen, and when you want to celebrate, you will. You'll know. Some people aren't your friends either when you thought they were, that is why they blow you off, or talk about subjects that hurt you. As you weed the pain out of your heart, it is good to weed people out of your life as well. I'm sorry for the pain you are in, and I hope you don't mind a birthday ((((hug)))) from me anyway.The Improper Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04460201280334904431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-47479587468543328192010-04-05T10:31:55.555-04:002010-04-05T10:31:55.555-04:00Von, thanks for the encouragement and for the remi...Von, thanks for the encouragement and for the reminder to allow people to care for me. I'm such a stubbornly independent person that I normally resist help. My hubby said that has been one of the hardest things for him to adjust to in our relationship. <br /><br />Thanks Amanda! <br />I know that people aren't insensitive on purpose ... it just isn't on their mind like it is mine. Well, except for my "little angle" whom I've posted about in the past. The last three conversations I've had with her, all three of them (inlcuding yesterday) have been about her sister's pregnancy. Yeah, I understand that this will be her first nephew/neice. But I have to wonder if she's doing this on purpose just to hurt me?<br /><br />Hugs back (((jimm)))thanks!<br /><br />thanks, Susie...you're so right - it's mysterious how much it really does help to know how many people (many of whom I've never met in person or even talked to on the phone) have shown care and love. And yeah, it does help - warms my heart!Cheerio!https://www.blogger.com/profile/00709663898726245342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-56882415978030160302010-04-04T20:37:22.400-04:002010-04-04T20:37:22.400-04:00Cheerio,
I've been thinking of your loss this ...Cheerio,<br />I've been thinking of your loss this week, thought of it on your birthday too. I can't imagine how hard it must be. I hope that knowing you have so many that care for & love you helps lift you up through the hardest times. <br /><br />Take care, <br />SusieSusiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07896750259463588813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-79059518630630143682010-04-04T12:44:13.911-04:002010-04-04T12:44:13.911-04:00(((((( Cheerio ))))))(((((( Cheerio ))))))jimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00565535741290255282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-37061223713071929182010-04-03T00:29:53.796-04:002010-04-03T00:29:53.796-04:00Cheerio, I am so, so sorry for your losses and the...Cheerio, I am so, so sorry for your losses and the insensitivity of those around you. I wish I could give you a big, big hug.The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-49926696598716474182010-04-02T23:54:29.624-04:002010-04-02T23:54:29.624-04:00Of course you need to do this to the best of your ...Of course you need to do this to the best of your ability and I hope when you do it will lead to some healing for you and some resolution.You'll never forget, we never do, but the rawness will go in time and the hurtful, grating remarks will vanish.<br />Take very good care of yourself, let anyone who wants to care for you do so, it might help them too.This is a very dificult, painful time of huge loss...very best wishes.Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.com