tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post3738813722557189049..comments2023-06-14T11:09:46.819-04:00Comments on Surviving Adoption Loss: you don't define meCheerio!http://www.blogger.com/profile/00709663898726245342noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-58563338954642958092014-01-06T13:30:51.005-05:002014-01-06T13:30:51.005-05:00dearest, everyoneactdead...
I'm not sure how t...dearest, everyoneactdead...<br />I'm not sure how to respond to your opening comment ... "I think you deal so well ...." and I would have to say that if I were to actually post the threads that I have written but not publish, and if I were to write more often of what I'm thinking BEFORE getting it all quasi sorted out - you would probably realize that it just looks like I deal so well.<br />I visited your blog briefly and was surprised to see your reference to suicide ideation. The surprise was not because I doubt you are struggling with it, but because even after all this time, I deal with it too.... suicide, and putting an end to all my struggle...or finding purpose a real reason to keep living, why bother to put one foot in front of the other? <br /><br />you totally nailed it though in your second sentence in you comment above , we ALL must do what we "can to avoid being consumed by the loss" which is such a difficult thing at times. It's not like "we" are looking for it to consume us, we can't really escape it. <br />And I don't think we ever really will. I think it is a matter of somehow adapting to the pain and learning to function despite it's constant gnawing.<br /><br />We've suffer - and society doesn't realize it, doesn't want to recognize it...Families suffer, mothers, fathers, adoptees, siblings, etc etc etc.<br /><br />Yeah, I deserve to live, but there are times I just don't want to anymore. Like, What is even the point?<br /><br />But I can't let those thoughts consume me either. They come, more often at some times than others, but I can't let them stay. I can't think about them. Because if I die - "they" win - and he loses.Cheerio!https://www.blogger.com/profile/00709663898726245342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-21495125873370212112014-01-01T15:45:19.140-05:002014-01-01T15:45:19.140-05:00I think you deal so well with what has to be unima...I think you deal so well with what has to be unimaginable pain. Do what you can to avoid being consumed by the loss. You've suffered so much, you deserve to live too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-64788399301765366442014-01-01T15:41:55.628-05:002014-01-01T15:41:55.628-05:00I think you deal so well with what must be unimagi...I think you deal so well with what must be unimaginable pain. Do what you can to avoid being consumed by the loss. You have suffered so much, but you deserve to live too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-30490349512276297942013-11-25T19:01:10.624-05:002013-11-25T19:01:10.624-05:00I've probably come across this quote before, b...I've probably come across this quote before, but this time it just had a different meaning.<br />Cheerio!https://www.blogger.com/profile/00709663898726245342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-16107678955257854992013-11-25T18:55:47.000-05:002013-11-25T18:55:47.000-05:00thanks, Claud ...
for now, forget 'shining th...thanks, Claud ... <br />for now, forget 'shining through the hurt'<br />it is just getting through it at all<br />Cheerio!https://www.blogger.com/profile/00709663898726245342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-16390381018570823772013-11-25T14:32:47.744-05:002013-11-25T14:32:47.744-05:00"Other people’s opinion of you does not have ..."Other people’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality." -Les Brown”<br /><br />One of my all time favorite quotes... PhoenixRisinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07655924058370540037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-23592171789799331852013-11-25T13:30:45.654-05:002013-11-25T13:30:45.654-05:00You know.. bottom line: YOU ARE a FABULOUS person!...You know.. bottom line: YOU ARE a FABULOUS person! Whether he does contact you or not.. nothing can take away that you are wonderful. And the fact that a horrible agency took advantage and lied to you.. still doesn't remove that you are super duper coolio!<br /><br />It won't take away the suck.. but the suck cannot take away from you.. it just hurts. Its how to shine through the hurt that I think is challenging! :) FauxClaudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00794052679215498158noreply@blogger.com