tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post8685284739988024838..comments2023-06-14T11:09:46.819-04:00Comments on Surviving Adoption Loss: logic without a heartbeatCheerio!http://www.blogger.com/profile/00709663898726245342noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-91966194749067627392008-12-04T00:37:00.000-05:002008-12-04T00:37:00.000-05:00Oh wow, thats awful your sister lost her two boys!...Oh wow, thats awful your sister lost her two boys! I can't imagine what it would be like to lose 2 children, it is hard enough bearing the loss of one... she is doing very well if she can manage to get up every day! Some people are incredibly stupid. Insensitive. Judgemental. Naiive. Yes, all these things... but mostly, oh so very stupid.<BR/><BR/>I would never expect any woman to just get over the loss of her child. How can they? Its not a toy or a thing they have lost but a living human being and one that has lived inside them for 40 weeks.<BR/><BR/>You guys have really been through a lot and are an inspiration for others to never give up. Thank you for sharing... xxxMysthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07425550479815459790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-42254629630129556082008-11-29T16:30:00.000-05:002008-11-29T16:30:00.000-05:00Some people just don't stop and think. I especiall...Some people just don't stop and think. I especially see this 'just get on with life' line of thinking when family is searching for a missing loved one whom is presumed to be dead. After a few years of searching, well meaning frinds tell them that they 'have to move on' or to 'get on with life'...but HOW can a person do that? For until that missing loved one is located and put to rest, there's always that one small flicker of hope burning...no matter how dim. There's always that tiny 'what if'. There are no answers or closure.<BR/>As far as your friend, feel free to let her know that I appreciate her compassion. But if she wants to offer up advice, perhaps she could come up with something that I haven't already thought 1,000 times myself, over the course of 10 years :)<BR/>There is one other element that most people don't realize. Since the 'abduction' of my first 2 sons, God blessed me with a 3rd little guy. <BR/>(and more recent...a good man...so I guess I am actually working at rebuilding a family unit kind of thing...NOT easy, when the person you loved abducted your other children.<BR/>Over of the years, my little guy has watched me as I searched for his brothers...He has seen me happy as I thought I found one of them again..and he has seen me broken, as I realized that once again I was at a dead end.<BR/>Some days I feel as if I did wrong, letting him know about his brothers...but I never imagined it would be 10 years and counting.<BR/>Now, at almost 8 years old, he talks of his brothers on occasion...and he watches as I work on the web, and print fliers, trying to help others who are missing...<BR/>What would this precious soul think...or how would he feel...<BR/>if I just gave up this search for my sons/his brothers?<BR/>Those of us who have someone missing in our lives, whether it be by abduction, adoption, or runaway, should pray hard that those who don't understand never truly will. For there is honestly one way to understand...and I don't wish it on anyone!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-56085130882490107942008-11-27T23:39:00.000-05:002008-11-27T23:39:00.000-05:00hey...nice blog! you and I have the same template....hey...nice blog! you and I have the same template.cindy psbmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09395540931984810886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-61006194464174323182008-11-25T14:03:00.000-05:002008-11-25T14:03:00.000-05:00my god your article just screams out to me, I los...my god your article just screams out to me, I lost my son to forced adoption in 1981 in ireland, we were reunited in ireland in 200, but even though it was a positive reunion I have not heard from my son in nearly a year, no reason just no contact.....it bloody hurts. What a brilliant piece of writing<BR/><BR/>~see I did not forget you I carved you in the palm of my hand~silentwitnesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17322723178941685983noreply@blogger.com