tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post4286808951819086149..comments2023-06-14T11:09:46.819-04:00Comments on Surviving Adoption Loss: bi-lingual and the language of painCheerio!http://www.blogger.com/profile/00709663898726245342noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-73754132913844067052012-03-31T12:25:23.922-04:002012-03-31T12:25:23.922-04:00Thank you, Myst.Thank you, Myst.Cheerio!https://www.blogger.com/profile/00709663898726245342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-23746659237949422252012-03-30T20:10:06.066-04:002012-03-30T20:10:06.066-04:00Great post Cheerio. I am sad for Doug he had to e...Great post Cheerio. I am sad for Doug he had to experience this even for a month... goes to show how even the smallest amount of time separated from you child is traumatic let alone what happens in adoption. <br /><br />Yes, seconding Cassi!! Well done for speaking up... its amazing how we are lead to people who are actually understanding and care. Kudos for being so very courageous and brave! Much love xxxMysthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07425550479815459790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-54288669307142684192012-03-30T17:50:00.136-04:002012-03-30T17:50:00.136-04:00thank you, Cassi... it is strange to look back and...thank you, Cassi... it is strange to look back and see the cowering Cheerio, terrified by her own reality. I am thankful for every one (adoptee and original moms alike) who helped me find the courage!Cheerio!https://www.blogger.com/profile/00709663898726245342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-75849626873659475942012-03-30T17:47:39.268-04:002012-03-30T17:47:39.268-04:00Thank you, Susie.
as I just replied to Linda, yes ...Thank you, Susie.<br />as I just replied to Linda, yes it is a double standard from society to not accept the damage done by adoption.<br />And it is not just the separation, it's lso the on-going effects if they 'find' each other again.<br />yes, Sad and MaddeningCheerio!https://www.blogger.com/profile/00709663898726245342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-14104372985617824872012-03-30T17:45:50.740-04:002012-03-30T17:45:50.740-04:00ya know, Linda, what you say is so obvious and yet...ya know, Linda, what you say is so obvious and yet I missed it myself. You are so right about how people would empathize with Doug - but when it comes to adoption - if it isn't dripping with sickening sweetness, society doesn't want to even hear it. You are right, it is dangerous. People get so incredibly defensive and ATTACK in their responses.Cheerio!https://www.blogger.com/profile/00709663898726245342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-87073880492946634552012-03-29T15:52:36.646-04:002012-03-29T15:52:36.646-04:00Amazing isn't it how one month away from his s...Amazing isn't it how one month away from his son devistated Doug and yet those who are separated by adoption are supposed to feel nothing.<br /><br />And, for the record, remembering so well the Cheerio who didn't share her adoption experience for so very long, I am amazingly proud of the strength and courage you have found lately to change that.Cassihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00274531213087340905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-34386364546748491872012-03-28T15:51:42.518-04:002012-03-28T15:51:42.518-04:00This is an excellent post Cheerio.
One month......This is an excellent post Cheerio. <br /><br />One month... understood and accepted by society. Decades as parents, lifetimes by those adopted.. dismissed and unacceptable by society.<br /><br />So sad. So maddening.Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15929169562563801608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5881694936200344846.post-50341702322807199862012-03-27T23:48:20.767-04:002012-03-27T23:48:20.767-04:00Im glad you have a classmate who understands the p...Im glad you have a classmate who understands the pain of being separated from their child. But it does make me sad that for Doug, it is acceptable to society that he was sad. As you know, it is not acceptable for first Mothers and adoptees to be sad about being separated, and it's dangerous to talk about it. xoxoReal Daughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16361127479878590761noreply@blogger.com